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I love the name Olivia !!!!!!

Ok, i know this is obvious, but Natalie is close

That was my suggestion to him but I don't think he likes it.

Kristin, I am so sorry to hear about everything going on in your life. I always wonder, why can't just one issue or problem come at a time? Why does it seem like everything has to come all at once? I'm sure you are absolutely exhausted. I mean, how could you not be? Like you said, you are pregnant, working two jobs, sick, etc. That's a plate full!

And then add the sonogram on top. Like the other moms have said, though, I'm sure there is nothing to be too concerned about since nothing was done immediately. I would think that if something was seriously wrong, they would have made some moves a bit quicker. But I know exactly how you feel. I worry about the littlest things! I'm just glad I have my hubby to reason with me. And it sounds like Nate is doing a wonderful job being there for you, too.

I'm glad to hear you all are thinking of names! That is always exciting! And I hope you are able to go out with us Friday night.

Kristin, I've always wanted a girl, and now have three boys.....let's trade some weekend, OK?

Sounds good but beware you'll be neck deep in high heels, pantyhose, and make-up. My boss said these days girls can play sports, fish, and hunt and maybe Nate can do boy stuff with this new girl and I said, "if she's anything like the other two then I doubt it." My girls are very prissy girlie girls. V already likes baby dolls.

My very prissy little girl who hates to get dirty and is starting to like dolls and dressing up, she can outfish the guys in the family already - just don't ask her to touch them!

Sounds like a welcome relief from the dirt, mud, dump trucks, bull dozers, backhoes, frogs, worms, bugs and yes, it's true, gas-passing that I live with!

Big A actually said to me one time, when I commented after all of them (daddy included) spent an entire trip to Orlando passing gas, "Mom, we can't help it, we're boys!"

Oh my. Hormones are a .... Men just don't understand how good they have it. Nate is a good hubby. I'm happy for you and I know you will crawl out of your funk soon. Women just have the whole world on their shoulders and it is overwhelming.

I didn't get a job when I was prego and I was the best one qualified (my old boss told me so) and came with the highest recomendations but they were unofficially looking for a man. It turned out to be the best thing in the world and it's funny how that always happens.

My final sonogram at 40 weeks I mainly wanted to know how big the baby was since I was huge. The tech wouldn't tell me and I took my paperwork downstairs straight to my midwife (with no appointment) and made her tell me straight. I was projected to have a 7 pounder based on family history but that sonogram said 9lbs 6oz and I freaked! I thought for sure I would die or tear or have surgery but he came out fine and actually 9-10 so don't worry. Your little on still has lots of time to grow, heal, and correct anything that may look different.

Lastly, think of the thing that always cheers you up like buying the new baby her first outfit, getting a new hair cut/style, or working out. Exercise always releases endorphines and although you are exhausted to may need some. We support you 1000 percent and will keep you in our prayers.

Thanks so much, everyone. The support really helps. I've just been bombarded with lots of "You should be thankful you can even have children. Lots of people would be grateful for just any child." And thats all true but it isn't this like any other disappointment? I mean, everyone has their own hopes and dreams for their lives and sometimes those dreams don't come true and of course one will be sad about it. We don't always get into the college we really wanted, or we don't marry the person we first wanted, or our grown kids says 'hey mom, I don't ever want kids' so their goes your dreams of grandkids out the door. It's just the loss of a dream for me. I'll get over it and love this baby. It helped that I ran into Marianne today, 3monkeys. She knew exactly how I felt when that sonogram tech said, "I don't see any boy parts." Maybe God put her in my path today on purpose.

and I think I will go out and buy little baby formerly known as Nate JR her first outfit. I do so love to shop. Though in the farethest reaches of my heart, maybe I"m still hoping for some miracle like your cousin got ... where they told her it would be one sex, and she got the other.

So Kristin, have you heard anything about the sonogram yet?

I haven't. SHe did say I would have to wait a few weeks until the baby was older

I hope you're feeling better Kristin! Our families should really get together sometime... And not just talk about it!

I too understand your fear from the sonogram, and now having to wait. My fear came when we were on vacation, and I got a call from one of my nurses saying that the triple blood test that I took came back positive for downs syndrome. I went to Shands had another sonogram, met with a geneticist, etc. I opted out of the amnio (I didn't want to take any chances), and my son turned out fine. Granted he was two weeks late, he weighed 9lbs 15oz, and I had to have a C-Section.

This too shall pass...just know that we are here for you to talk to if you need us. Please keep us posted on the sonogram, and when you choose a baby name.

Hi Kristin,

I can totally sympathize with you on many levels. For one, I wanted a girl and it turns out we're having a boy. After our family left the room hubby gave me a a hug while I cried. I think it has to do with losing my mother to cancer so young and wanting to be to my own daughter what my mom couldn't be for me. AND we would have named her Olivia! I personally like Olivia Grace.

For the sonogram let me tell you... I have Dr. Million who I LOVE, however, early on she asked if hubby and I would terminate the pregnancy if the fetus was found to have a disorder or disease of some sort, meaning Downs Syndrome. We said no, we would't consider it. So she never did the measurement of the nucal fold at 13-14 weeks.

When we went to Shands for the 30 week ultrasound (I'm 35 and considered high risk) the doctor kept measuring and measuring the baby's neck. He then suggested the possiblity of Downs and asked if we wanted to do an amnio. We were devastated. Completely and utterly in shock.

We did not do the amnio for fear that the doctor is wrong and an amnio could possibly cause a miscarriage. So here we are. We did a 4-D ultrasound and can see our boys face which appears normal so we're just going along like all is well until delivery. It's all we can do.

Depression.... ahhhh, I'm a control freak and when things around me are not IN control, I freak. I'm 4 weeks from delivering feel completely ill-prepared. Have to finish the nursery, put the car seat in, wash the baby clothes... So much to do and so little time!

Something that helps me is to pray for contentment. Just to be happy and content with where I am in life and know that God won't let me down even when those around me do.

Hubby and I have good jobs, two cars, a nice albeit small house, are healthy and the most important is a wonderfully supportive family.

Sometimes when you look at everything that you DO have then the things that are going wrong look small.

I hope all is well with you since your last post here.

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