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I was reading this interesting story about surrogate moms around the country -- who they are, why they did it. etc. It got me thinking if I would ever be a surrogate mother. I love being pregnant, but I don't know if I would have it in me to detach myself enough from the child growing inside me. Maybe if a family member or good friend couldn't have children though, and I could continue to have some kind of relationship with the child, then I think I might think about it.

As soon as I discovered I was pregnant, I became so attached to my children. I would imagine it would be hard for me to give the baby up. However, if I carried a baby for my sister, and the baby was not biologically mine, I may be able to do it.

I wanted to do this when I was young because I love to give gifts and make people happy. My midwife told me I have a "beautiful pelvis" and "big uterus" so apparantly I'm made for birthing babies. I might do it for a family member/best friend but I'm already 27 so I think I'll try to use my good birthing years for my own children.

I'm in agreement with the rest of you. If one of my sisters or a good friend couldn't have a child, I think I could think about doing it. Otherwise, I think it would be too hard. I would constantly be wondering how the baby was doing and if the parents were treating it right etc.

Same here. I could definitely do it for my sister, as long as it was her egg and her hubby's sperm, but I don't think that I could do it for anyone else. Like you all said before, I would also wonder how the baby was/what they were doing, etc. But I would see no problem doing it for my sis. I would just feel that I was helping to care for her baby for a while.

I'm with you all...I could do it for my sis..or a close friend...but not using my egg.

Karen

Do you all think the the amount some of these women make being a surrogate is a fair amount? It's equal to about a year's salary for some people -- which, when you think about it, getting pregnant, nine months of pregnancy, then recovery -- seems about right.

Has anyone seen the episode of Oprah where journalism Lisa Ling goes to the surrogate clinic in India. Apparently we're even outsourcing surrogacy?

I think that If I wasnt married or my husband was in the services then I would do it for someone I didnt know and with whom I had a connection with and knew I would always be special to that child then yes. Deff. if someone close asked me I would. I loved being pregnant and I would do it over and over again. The paid part is hard..I think as long as they pay the doc. office/hospital bills and give a little money each month for food and a lump sum for clothes then that should be enough. but who knows...if I were ever realy asked whould I say the same...?? I know my husband wouldnt want to see me pregnant esp. if it was someone elses child...

I would, but if it was someone close. Children are just so special and if I could help someone receive one of the most precious gifts on Earth. I know it would be hard for me but, knowing that the child would be loved and cared for should make it easier.

A friend of mine who is a gay man broached this subject with me. I made some sort of joke, but he was completely serious. And I did consider it...the money was good. But the problem is this...all he had to offer is the sperm, meaning I would have to supply the egg. And while I have not one ounce of doubt that this man would make a great "mother", I just thought it would be weird for my kids one day when they start to remember that mommy was preggo and where is the baby?

Wow that's an interesting poing - something I never really thought of. I guess I would have to take into consideration the age of my children. If they were too young to know the difference, I don't think they would question the big belly or the fact that it's gone. And if the children are older, you can explain the situation to them. But what if they are right in between? That might be REALLY confusing for a child.

For my sister, yes (in theory), but for nobody else.

But I have too much respect for my husband; he would be bothered by it and his opinion WOULD count on something that WOULD involve our entire family.

In the past 26 years, I have been angry at my gay college roommate and close friend (Bryce....a male) over just one thing. It was his impregnantion of his lesbian friend. She went from girlfriend to girlfriend and did not have a steady job. She had some emotional problems as well. When she wanted to get pregnant, Bryce and 2 other gay men used things you'd find in a kitchen at Thanksgiving to see if they could assist Megan in getting pregnant.

I had to ask myself what GOD was doing as he looked down upon all four of them. And is that what human life is reduced to? Is the role of the baby's father so unimportant? Were they doing what would be BEST for a baby and eventual young adult, etc, or was the action selfish and irresponsible?

Bryce and I can no longer discuss the issue. He views it as he merely completed a job for a friend. He never stops to wonder who the baby's father is and if it is he. He never stops to wonder if a single woman deciding to create a baby without any known father is not incredibliy wrong and selfish. He doesn't want to think that his friend's wants were put ahead of what is best for a child.

I shall always love Bryce (we keep in touch regulary and he visits...as all good friends do when you live near Disney), but I am disgusted with his immoral behavior. That is not a judgment; it's God's Truth...a very inconvenient Truth, especially in these times.

If I was not a DMD carrier, I would. I would not take the chance of giving another child DMD. I would not wish this upon any parent.

Unfotunately, I would have to say no...otherwise it be a "yes" in a heartbeat for someone I do know and care about.