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Please someone tell me....when does it stop???

Oh man whining is one thing that really gets to me! My daughter went through a phase. What we did with her was tell her, when she started whining, that she was 2 years old and she needed to talk like a big girl or that we couldn't understand her when she whined. If that didn't work, we would tell her if she was whining that must mean she is tired and she should go rest in her bed. She didn't really like that option so she usually stopped.

I agree with Stacy, you have to put a stop to it right away. Don't acknowledge what they are saying. Tell them you can't understand them if they are trying to talk to you, and if they are whining about a situation tell them if they are whining then it must be time for a nap or bedtime...whichever is appropriate for the time of day...and STICK TO IT!!

Good luck...don't worry with consistency it will pass sooner than you think

She's 5. I have tried the "I dont' understand you when you whine" bit. I'll have to try the go rest in your bed bit too....

Pray for me. I dispise whining!!

I hate whining!!! G had started doing this, especially when he wanted something to eat or drink. I just wouldn't give it to him. I would tell him that "I'm sorry, but I can't give you a drink if you are whining. Now is there something you want to ask me?" That usually worked well. I might have to refuse to give in to him more than once, but he would eventually get the hint. I also tried whining back at him a few times. That seemed to help too, he thought it was silly.

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Originally posted by carmic1975:
She's 5. I have tried the "I dont' understand you when you whine" bit. I'll have to try the go rest in your bed bit too....

Pray for me. I dispise whining!!

I'll pray for you. My oldest was my worst whiner. (She is 16 and I still to this day have to remind her not to whine). Your daughter will get it sooner or later. With my oldest when she was around 5 and 6, I would actually punish her if she did not heed my first "don't whine" warning. Say she was whining about watching more TV when I said TV time was over, I would give her the "you're whining and I don't like it look", if she continued the next thing I would say would have been to the effect of, "Do you want to lose a show for tomorrow too?" Then if she still continued I would tell her, "Okay...thats one of your shows tomorrow...do you care to try for another?" That type of approach usually worked.

I have a beautiful, painted slate "No Whining" sign over my kitchen. I tend to point often.
And sometimes its my children who do the pointing.

I'm glad someone brought this up! My almost 15 month old does it all the time. He understands a lot of what we tell him, but not everything. And though his vocabulary is advanced for his age, it's still a minimal one.
How do I teach a toddler not to whine?? Help??

To ACMom

My best advice is to squat down to his level and explain to him that he needs to 'use words' when he talks to you. Also don't reward the whining. If he wants a cookie and he is whining, since he is so young maybe try giving him the words to use..(if he can have the cookie then)...tell him to say "Cookie please" and just keep reminding him of the words to use if he continues to whine. I would just ignore the whining as you can and go on with what you are doing. He may keep going back and forth from you to where the cookie..or toy...or the door if he wants to go outside for awhile is...but you get the picture. Just encourage him to use at least two non whining words for what he wants and reward him with what he is asking for as soon as he says it. (A big hug, a smile and excitement will make him feel good too!)

Good luck...I hope that helps some!

In psychology we learned that ignoring a behavior is the best way to extinguish it. With the kids (40 or so) I watched after school I always told them I couldn't hear them unless they used a big boy/girl voice to talk to me because I am a big girl. Then I ignored them if they continued.