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The story basically says that a little white lie is OK now and then. Good thing, cause I use them quite a bit to get out of tamtrum-inducing situations. Do you feel there is any harm in telling a little lie now and then? So what's the most creative fib you've ever told your child?

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Its alot to process...I actually like the white lie of 'this toy says it is for 5years old and up so the cashier won't let you buy it' ..how creative!!

But I don't usually lie to my kids...I go ahead and say 'no we don't have time to toy shop', or just say 'no, you have tons of toys at home and mommy bought you one last time', my kids do okay usually. Even my 3 year old understands that she doesn't get something everytime we go.

Now about the pets...whew thats a toughy..my 16 year old had a hamster, his name was Digger. This was hamster # 5 in long line of them since she was 6 years old and just had to have one. God was kind and her first one lived for 3 and a half years!! So at nine and a half I had to watch her little heart break and explain why "midget" had died. She was heart broken...but 3 months later decided she wanted another one. This one only lived a year and a half, and since then they have averaged 1 and a half to 2 and a half years.

When the one before the one we have now died about 7 months ago, my youngest was old enough to know something was up. I didn't use the word dead...but I did tell her he was very old and that he was tired and his body needed to "rest". I told her he was with God to rest. We didn't let her know we buried him. We have another one now...of course!! and she has been fine with it so far. She is only 3,
(2 then),and I had not had to explain death to such a young child before. Hopefully I didn't cause any permanent damage!!

I usually tell it how it is. I want my kids to know they can trust me and I also want them to know the truth about how things happen.

other than santa clause and the easter bunny, i've probably been too honest with my kids over the years.

but a personal experience just this weekend reminds me that nothing good will ever come from lying.

i have a stressed relationship with my ex-family to say least. well this weekend, my dd sent me a text msg saying she was at her grandparents house and would i please call her there. for some reason, dad wouldn't let her have her phone. so naturally, i called right away. well grandma answered and said they were not there. so i asked her to please tell my dd that i called when they arrived. i just assumed they weren't there yet. needless to say, they were there, they had been there for more than an hour and ex-mother in law thought she was being funny (nasty if you ask me). but this was not the first time but it was the first time my 15 year old girl experienced her grandmother's lies personally. she was heart broken and angry at the same time.

my personal opinion is that small lies only lead up to bigger lies. lying is like an addiction, once it starts, it will require an intervention to stop.

trust is really big at my house, we've battled the kid lying, like yes, i did my homework only to find the page still folded in his backpack. we believe that along with your name, your word is all you come into this world with and all you will leave it with.

can you tell this is a touchy subject today?