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According to The View this morning 29% of ppl admit to buying things without ever telling their spouse, meaning purposefully hiding the purchase. Mostly women who like to rip the tags off that new Ann Taylor shirt and say, "Oh this old thing?" LOL! What do you think? Confess or pass judgement here!

Guilty as charged...but so is he!

I still spend less than he does. Also, the stuff I buy is usually stuff "for the family", whereas his tools and crap...who else besides him needs or wants or uses any of that?

Anyways, that's my story, and I'm sticking to it!

I don't think I've ever lied to my husband about purchases I've made -- mostly because the stuff that I buy isn't that expensive. I think financial honesty is a must! I remember Oprah doing a show on this same thing though. A woman had gotten her family in debt by more than $200,000 because of her outlandish spending, and her kids didn't even have health insurance.

My husband is really good about letting me buy little things here and there. After I buy something I "need," I come home, tell him about it, and say, "I can take it back if you'd like, sweetie."

I think he's caught onto my little game. He knows I wouldn't really be so willing to take anything back, and so far he hasn't asked me to... (I don't know how I would react if he did!)

But I agree that couples should always try to be honest about purchases. It seems like money issues are at the root of many relationship problems.

Is not telling the same as actually lying? I am really pretty good! Who has time to shop????

I'm with LEW. Is not telling really lying? I mean, I don't spend a lot on clothes, so I don't feel I need to hide the fact that I spent $5 on a t-shirt at Old Navy! He's the same way. We are honest with our purchases. Although, for some reason when I do buy stuff for myself I feel guilty. I guess it's the "mom guilt" - buying stuff for ourselves rather than our kids. But that's another topic!

That's the difference between my husband and I, I'll go buy a couple T-shirts or a dress at Target once a month while I'm there to buy cleaning supplies, etc. He won't buy himself a thing for six months, then goes online and buys a $400 iPod. It evens out eventually, and we don't hide anything. To me, not telling isn't so bad. Hiding and lying, definite no-nos from either spouse.

I don't always tell him up front but I do not lie about it either. If he asks I tell him the truth. He is the same way. The good thing about our purchases is that they are ALL cash, if we do not have it in the bank to spend then we do not buy!!

I don't have a spouse/partner to "lie" to or hide things (except to myself!) However I know my budget and know if I have the money to spend or not.

I hate shopping for that reason. I hate window shopping. Cuz if I go window shopping and see something I would like and know I don't have the money then I feel bad. So I just stay away from it all together. However, if I do buy something its because I know all my needs are taken care of and if this is a need (clothes, shoes) I'll get it; but if its a want (media, puter stuff, etc...etc...) and if I have the funds I'll get it, but that is rarely.

Last year, when I had the settlement money, I did get the needs done, the bills paid. and then I went to the "wants" but still was wise and penny pincher and nothing expensive. I think the most expensive thing I bought was my digital nikon camera that I got off of ebay.

Now that we are flat broke we're just xtra careful with our wants and needs!