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So I'm curious, what unwarranted parenting advise has everyone else received? The post regarding the comment about Mary's appearance got me to thinking about a time that I took Jordy to the mall. She was 11 months old at the time. First, I took Jordy to the food court to get a little breakfast. I placed Jordy in a chair and pulled it up close to my leg so that I was there in case she fell. She was extremely stable at the time though, so there was virtually no possibility that should would fall. I was also at most 6 inches away from her waist. Even with all of this, a senior woman decided she needed to comment on the fact that "She could fall off that chair you know." Uh, yeah, thanks, got it covered...

In that same visit to the mall I let Jordy walk around. She LOVED to walk. She took her first step at 8 1/2 months old and was walking around by 9 1/2 months. So, she had been walking for a month and a half when I decided to take her to the mall at a non-peak hour and let her practice. You would have thought I was abusing that child. The stairs and the pointing that I received, I'm surprised nobody called child services on me=-)

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I am right there with you. I also think how I take it depends greatly on how it is spoken to me as well. I have had people say alot of things to me. The ones that are saying it out of true concern for my child, I tend to feel less offensive to, if at all. While those who are saying merely to point out how bad of a mom I am, I am very offensive about.
I had my son s 22, but I have always looked younger then I am. I used to (maybe I still do and just don't notice! lol) get the "poor teenage mom" looks. It used to bug me, now I don't care.

I'm coming up on 30 now, but when Jordy was a toddler, I was 22 as well. So I think some of the advise was given for the reason you pointed out, they thought I was really young and didn't know any better. Hey, everybody was young once, and just because you're young doesn't mean you don't know better.

We had a yard sale a couple weekends ago and K was inside getting breakfast with her daddy. She was mad, yelling and throwing a fit when an elderly lady walked up to me and said "somebody is very upset - you know she shouldn't be in there by herself" I just looked at her for a second and said oh she's not. What I really wanted to say was.....What? our dogs do a wonderful job with her!!!!!!!!
I couldn't believe it, but I guess there will always be people who don't think we know what we are doing.

Oh...I have a really good one! We were going to the Spring Garden Festival one year when my little man was almost a year old. Well, we had to park at the school and take the bus over because it was really crowded. It was a little chilly so I packed the little man some socks but was waiting to put them on because they would get lost and he is such a hot kid anyway. Well, we are standing there waiting for the bus and these 3 older women are standing near us...I see one them gesturing toward me (I was holding him) and I hear her say..."Look at that...he doesn't even have socks on!" then (and I kid you not) the other women says "Well, it looks to me like he's lucky to even have pants on"!!! I definitely am not one to shy away from that sort of thing....so I turn to them and say.."Oh, well since you are perfect and know me and my child...perhaps you could tell me how to take of him...I haven't managed ruin to my oldest, not from lack of trying and since, just because I look different from your typical mom, I must be a horrible parent...maybe you should just go ahead and stand in judgment" I'm pretty sure their faces fell off...but I didn't let them say anything back..we just got on the bus. Grrr...some people!

My fave is when my step-D gives me parenting advice...that's just peachy. Now, I'll accept, even ask for, input and advice from anyone whom I think can give reasonable and intelligent answers, but sometimes, it's not what they say, it's how they say it. And while yes, she gave birth to her son 4 years prior to my oldest son's birth, some things aren't so much parenting skills, as they are common sense and life experience, both of which I do have. But I do have to say that now that my boys outnumber hers, 3 to 1, she has kept quiet a lot more than before, and now she'll even "hats off" to me, admitting she could never handle more than her one son.

I have a great mother-she had 4 kids and she gives good advice and presents it in a manner that is acceptable. For example, she admits she learned some things the hard way and shares it more of in a way as to make me feel like I can benefit from her having made some mistakes and learned from them..not as if I am doing it all wrong and she has the answer for everything! I have a hard time when people act as if they know it all...especially the ones who have never had a child , or had one so long ago they cannot recall all of the details ....you know the ones whose children slept through the night beginning on day 2..potty trained at 10 months, walked at 7 months and never got sick once...all while they managed to keep a perfect house, spotless kids, cook a meal every night that included all of the food groups, and worked full time...PLEAZZZZZZZZZZZZ!