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I HAVE A 1 YR OLD DAUGHTER AND SHE NEEDS ME FOR EVERYTHING; I'M HER BINKIE, IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. I'VE ALWAYS BEEN THE TYPE OF PERSON THAT'S LIKE "THIS IS MY PERSONAL SPACE PLEASE DON'T STEP IN IT". I THOUGHT IT WOULD CHANGE, BUT REALITY IS THAT I'M STILL THAT WAY AFTER HAVING 2 KIDS. I FEEL LIKE I WAS LUCKY WITH MY SON 'CAUSE HE'S VERY INDEPENDANT, BUT MY DAUGHTER IS JUST FOR EVERYTHING EVEN ENTERTAINMENT, SHE WANT TO BE ON ME. I HAVE TO LOAD THE DISHWASHER, WASH CLOTHES AND VACUMM WITH HER ON ME. I JUST NEED SERIOUS HELP OR TRY TO GET OVER THIS QUICK. I FEEL LIKE I NEED A BREATHER. HELP !!!!

I had this problem at church. My normally very extroverted child insisted I stay in the nursery with her. Its taken awhile (try two years) but I finally have gotten to the point where I can sneak out and she'll play happily with the other children. I used some of the tips on this website.

http://www.raisingkids.co.uk/ask/ex06_bab01.asp

I have heard that seperation anxiety starts around 9mos and lasts up to 1 1/2 yr.

Other than that, some kids just have the personality types to need their mama.

My son is clingy for some things but not all, my daughter is pretty clingy but not all the time. I think it might also be a girl thing.

Just try looking up tips to help her do her own thing here and there but don't expect to get to a point of her doing her own thing all the time. I think as mothers, we all know how much our kids love and need us... and for mothers with older children, how fast that seems to go away!!!

Good luck.

My daughter is clingy as was my son....impossible to get things done! My son is now 4 yrs old and getting very independat. I agree w/ Freja, we need to show them all of the love they need. Soon they will be gone and we will be begging for those clingy hugs . It seems like things got better w/my son when he started to understand what I was telling him..i.e, mommy needs to cook dinner if you want to eat . I guess that was about 2.5..if memory serves me correctly!

I don't have a problem with her needing me; it's just the having to do the chores around the house w/ just the one hand. The experience with my son (7 yr. old)was diffrent compare to my daughter and I just don't know how to handle it.
Thank you kristinch1 for the website; it was very helpful.

I am guilty of doing the chores w/ one hand too...it is very hard on the back . I am not sure what teh answer is...it does seem to get better w/ age though. You are a good mom, that is why she loves you so much!

i know it sounds early, but when you are folding laundry, give her some rags to "fold", when you are sweeping, give her a toy broom. i did this with my daughter and she is so much help around the house now. my son, well, i hope he really plays major league baseball (ha ha) and can hire his chores done!

but seriously, as soon as she could walk, she was "helping" me and if she started to get whiny, we would set the timer. ok, give mommy three minutes to finish these dishes. we used timers for everything! not saying it always worked but i really think it helped her realize that i really was working, not just neglecting her. then we would make a big fuss over the shiny floor and we always took time to smell the clean clothes when they came out of the dryer.

Thank you sooo much softballmom I'm definitely trying it. Lets see how it goes. I'll let you know. I think asking for help to you guys was a great idea. Should've thought about it before. lol Thanks everyone.

L whitehurst you know what I'm talking about because she is a 23 lbs. baby and my back and right arm has been sore for weeks now . I don't know if she is in the middle of a growth spurt or what, but she is getting extremely heavy. And as for the hugs we have this thing called cuddle hugs where we all hug each other as a group and then individually. We do it twice a day. My mom taught me this and we are all so close to each other it's not even funny. I want to teach my kids also the same thing I was taught when little; which is "you don't need to find love outside of this home to make you feel loved. You are loved just the way you are here @ home.And we can work through anything as a family". It's like your hand you know all your fingers are different, but when you ball it up as a fist it's strong. The roots of a family is the same.
I consider myself a good mom, just sometimes we need a little extra push to get better.
Thank you guys !!

So funny! We do what we call "group hugs"! If eth kids are fighting, or we are stressed, we say "time out..group hug" it makes everyone laugh and feel much better! I like the timer idea ...I am going to give that a try!

You know LW we should definitly meet up someday. We have a lot in common.
Thank you all for your input, much is appreciated.

Sounds good! Cane you come to the Mom's night out?

I'm going to try to be there. where is it?

Sweetpea...I had the same thing with my son! My daughter (who is 7 now) was always super independent, so I was at a loss with my son (he's 3 now). I used to joke with my hubby that he was going to come home from work one day and I would have sewn a huge piece of velcro to the front of his shirt and the side of my pants!
There is hope though! As he is getting older, he is getting more and more independent...now he only wants me when he's tired or hurt. He is very into playing in his room....LWhitehurst's idea was awesome..we did that too..my little man can now load the dishwasher, the regular washer and has gotten pretty good at folding laundry...haha..supervised of course. hang in there

THANKS BISHOP96. IT MAKES ME FEEL BETTER TO KNOW I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE WITH THIS PROBLEM. I SWORE I WAS DOING SOMETHING WRONG. BUT NOW I SEE IT'S MORE COMMON THAN I THOUGHT.