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I just don't get why my husband enjoys video games so much! When he gets home I'm craving a good long conversation and he is craving the computer games. We have a great relationship so he does try to give me what I need but I can tell its work for him. He has also mastered the art of repeating my words back to me while playing to prove he was "listening." What is the draw?

because he still needs to grow up!

Ok...I have to admit...I LOVE video games! We have a Wii, a playstation 2 AND a gamecube! I know crazy...maybe it's from having 4 older brothers...I like the challenging ones for the Playstation and Gamecube and the Wii is just plain fun. It is a nice distraction...

Oh, I love the whole repeating your words back to you. My husband does that too. Men ...

OMG I am so happy thats it not just me I cant tell you amount of times I have thought of breaking the thing hehe.When he plays it's like hours and he gets all into it and ask me a million times to come see.It's cute at times but when I need something done and have to keep repeating myself ooooo I want to scream and also he can tell me what I said most of the time but when he knnows he wasn't listening he amits it

In the past video games have definitely been geared toward men, but for my husband it was always an outlet -- kind of like shopping for me. But we are actually thinking of getting a Wii for the whole family next Christmas. I want to get the Wii Fit and Wii Sports -- my 3-year-old would love the baseball. I want to get Brain Age, too -- maybe it would help with my Mommy Brain.

This one is a sore spot for me since my ex was addicted to video games so much that I think it contributed to the downfall of our marriage.
But that is a whole other post...I mean novel. LOL
I enjoy video games, as does my current husband, but it's not a "take over what we are doing activity."

for me its an escape from the fun of a 65 hour work week. and i may play an hour or so a week, so i dont feel that i am cheating my wife or daughter of any time. my daughter actually loves to play along with me.

Here's my take. My hubby likes video games. He plays them alot. But at least he's not out running the streets. He doesn't go to bars, he doesn't watch strippers, he doesn't get drunk, he doesn't smoke or do drugs. He's home. And really he can pay attention to the game and hold a conversation. And it's not like he won't stop when I ask him to. I guess I just figure there are worse things. At least he's not surfing the net for porn....

And I love the Wii. I actually am an awesome bowler on Wii bowling I have NEVER gotten a Turkey in real bowling! I have on Wii! And it gets my butt off the couch too! Right now I want a Nintendo DS for the Brain Age games. I stood in front of the one in Best Buy for like 20 minutes one day when my hubby finally came up to me and asked if I was ready to go.

So I'm thinking I should look into a Wii since it would be something we could do together. Hoever, since I'm staying at home right now waiting for arrival of baby #1 I can't wait for him to get home so we can talk/interact and while an hour of gaming to wind down is acceptable, the whole evening is not. So once again we can see that it's all about balance and compromise...Thanks for all the comments!

Ok here is the funniest story about my gaming husband......last winter my husband is deep into his game he plays on the internet with other gamers and I casually walk in and announce to him that my daughter just found a dead squirrel floating in our pool and could he please get the net and get it out before it bloats.....he says"ok"...I walk out of our room only to have him yell out...."You found WHAT in the pool????" So I determined it is 'selective' hearing. When he heard the words 'dead', 'squirrel', and 'pool', so close together something triggered in his manly brain and told him action was needed.

ok, mary, i'm with you on the Wii.

i was out of town overnight Saturday night. DH went over to a single friends house for the evening, you know supposed to be a guys night, steaks on the grill, poker...

well, instead these grown men became little boys and played until 4am! he wants to purchase the Wii for our house now. i'm thinking of looking into it because if i can figure it out at all, i might get some time with him...even if we are playing a video game!

[QUOTE]Originally posted by Mary Reichardt:
I just don't get why my husband enjoys video games so much! When he gets home I'm craving a good long conversation and he is craving the computer games.
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I have been happily married for 18 years (although the first 4 were not so "happy"...lots of adjustment). My husband works hard at the office and then needs time to recoup. Since men are visual creatures (I use the term lovingly), what's more stimulating to a visual man than fast, action-packed video games that involve chase and challenge (other than sex, of course)? Therefore, if I am not desiring sex, video/computer games are the next best thing. I look at it this way, he has EARNED his recreational time (time to vegetate) and having him home is better than out of the house without me.

Men are women are so different, which is what makes us go together so well. God knew what He was doing! Imagine being married to someone like yourself (or me being married to someone like myself); we'd be competing for talk time and driving eachother nuts!

I have learned, thru trial and error, NOT to buy my wonderful husband video/computer games for holidays. Diablo, WarCraft & Morrowind are his substitutes for lovin' so three big boy games are enough!

Yes, "repeating" words back is so familiar, but have you gotten the "eye thing?" That's when he talks to you, but keeps one eye planted squarly on the screen! My 7-yr-old son has inherited it; it's got to be genetic

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Originally posted by McInnesmom:

Yes, "repeating" words back is so familiar, but have you gotten the "eye thing?" That's when he talks to you, but keeps one eye planted squarly on the screen! My 7-yr-old son has inherited it; it's got to be genetic

YES! YES!! I have gotten the eye thing..one(sort of twitching) on me and one still on the screen. All the while carrying on (sort of) a little conversation with me. When you mentioned it I knew JUST what you meant!!