As most of you know I am divorced. I am looking for help for the wonderful moms on here. I have not had a date in almost 5 years. I belive i had one with my ex husband since we were married but thats not the same. I am young (23) and scarde to death. Not only about meeting someone new but how my son will take to them. Any tips you have I would love. I dont go out and really meet new people bc I would rather stay at home with my son. Any ideas for the mom wanting to get out again?

Are you involved in any community groups right now?

I am with my church but I am the only "young person" that attends. That and they are all related to me. Other than that, no I don't do anything.

I would suggest a church with a younger crowd so that you can meet people who have things more in common with you. Chances are you'll meet some great moms as well...

Also, do you have a good support system? Being a single mom is not an easy task, especially with the added emotional stress of a divorce.

I was a single mom for several years. I never went anywhere outside of work. The only people I associated with outside of work was my family. I used the internet as a means to socialize when my daughter went to bed.

I met my current husband online when I was just looking for people to talk to in order to waste time. It turned out that his family was from Gainesville and his dad had gone to middle school with my dad and his aunt and uncle were friends of my parents. He only sent me a message because he saw where I lived. We never would have met without the internet, and it was a huge coincidence that we met at all.

Yes, there are tons of weirdos online, but they are around us in real life too. It isn't always the most favored way to meet people, but if you just want to talk to people you don't already know like I did, it can be fun.

I agree with cpr29. I was single mom for a few years as well and now I am again sort of.
When I become ready to date again...I wasn't even looking for a relationship. I just wanted to date and feel like an attractive woman again.
So I would sign up for different places, dating sites mostly and also used myspace.
The men would contact me, and I would give out my messenger username and then we would chat there first. I would get feel for the person and some I would block right away, others were just internet chats and a select few I would give my number to. But always my cell phone, my home number is easier to track my address.
And my cell phone isn't in my name, it's in my dad's since we have a family plan together with a few other family members.
Anyways, I got to meet some great guys, which helped to restore my faith in men, and got to be treated like a lady again, which was nice. I also met my husband on there, and we hit it off instantly. It was like we were meant to be. Anyways, right now he is staying overseas building a business for us and I am finishing my degree. our plans right now is for me to finish my degree and then my kids and I will move there with him.
I really did enjoy online dating with the right precautions. Never give out a home number, always chat online without giving out too much personal info right away, and ALWAYS meet the other person somewhere publically, like a restaurant, coffee shop, etc.

Thank you all. I dont feel so alone. After I posted this a friend of mine wanted to start a play group/ singlemom support group. I am so exicted! The funny thing is, I found my ex husband on line or more like we found each other. I feel so much better just from reading what you wrote, I know it can happen again I just need to wait. Thank you so much! Thats what I needed to hear.

Dalton's mom,
I am glad you found the input from other moms helpful. I hope that this site offers more than information, but support to the women and moms in our community as well. If your friend starts her group, be sure to keep us posted. I can announce it here. Thanks!

I am also divorced single mom. I just arrived at Gainesville 1 and half years ago. As a Chinese single woman, it is so hard to meet a right man to date. I also go to some internet to meet men, but it is so hard to know a man well. They don't have patience to know me. How can I have sex with a man I don't know well? I am a sex beautiful woman. I don't want to catch a man by sex, which wouldn't keep relationship long.

myspiritwithin and cpr 29 are so lucky. I admire you two.